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Just Feelin Sorry For Myself! [29 Apr 2008|09:11pm]

[ mood | lonely ]

Yes - I know I am a Christian ... and I believe that I am in the place God wants me to be.

Yet over the last few weeks I have felt really alone - I know it is Satan getting at me ... But I am still human and it hurts!

I am 46 - single ... but the thing I find the hardest at present is that I have always been single.

It used not to be something I ever thought about - but these last 6 months have caused me more and more stress - which in itself is also upsetting me.

Sorry, but just needed to be able to say this - and I have no one else that I can say the words to - Thanks for listening!


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Hello From Your Long-lost Mod... [28 Apr 2008|08:52pm]

... Yeah so I haven't been on livejournal really now for about 8-9 mmonths or something close to that... just due to personal issues and trials in my life, I've been too drained and at one point just felt like I had lost my ability to write and to express myself through writing.

I'm thankful for my amazing co-maintainer, It looks like she took care of all the requests for membership while I was away, which is a blessing.

Anyways, If there are people who haven't met me yet, I'd just like to introduce myself - I'm Stephanie, your moderator.

It seems like we all stray from the path less chosen at one (or two, or three...) point(s) in our life... and some stray farther than others. I have been walking far, far away from the Lord's path for too long.

Allthough I am technically not single, I feel like I am. I got into a relationship with an unbeliever. Never have I felt so alone, even though I do have a boyfriend that is here for me.

I have come to realize that when you are with an unbeliever, it dosen't matter how "good" of a person they are or how well they treat you... If you do not believe in the Lord and you do not believe in the Bible as God's guide to how we are supposed to live our lives, then naturally our belief systems are completely opposite. I believe that in this day and age, any Biblical concept, moral, or value is completely contradictory to the morals, values, and conceptualizations of the world today - no matter how good of a person or how loving of a person they may be... These are two completely contradictory belief systems: The beliefs of the world, and the beliefs of the Children of God.

I regret getting into this relationship... for many reasons... but it hurts me inside to know I may never have that spiritual bond with my boyfriend (because I can't change him, the decision to follow the Lord is a decision only He can make for himself).

But anyway, I feel single... I feel lonely in my faith and lonely as a person.

I have to be true to myself and admit that I don't believe I have the strength to leave him at this point... but then again the Holy Spirit inside of me is knocking at my door, telling me I am strong in the Lord Jesus, and that I am able to do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

I'm hoping for some advice. I live in a small town, and I don't know a single believer here anymore... so I am reaching out in this community, because I know that all you women have a heart for the Lord.

Please say a prayer for me, because besides the boyfriend and all - I feel extremely far from the Lord for very many other reasons, and the desire of my heart right now is to get back closer to my First Love: God.

This relationship is pretty long-term for me though... I honestly can't imagine ever leaving him - I think what it is going to take is prayer and having faith that the Lord will provide me the strength to do according to His perfect will.

God bless all of you ladies, thank you for enduring my rant, and it's nice to be back and it's nice to meet all the people I haven't met yet =)

God Bless,
Stephanie <3
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Thought For The Day [01 Apr 2008|08:53am]

[ mood | grateful ]

I came across a verse in the Bible this morning that I wanted to share with you all.  It is an answer to a question we all ask - just wish that I could have this verse permanently in my mind - 

"At just the right time I will respond to you.  ... I will help you." Says The Lord
Isaiah 49 v8

I am hopeless with the concept of patience - so maybe this will help to remind me that God's timing, isn't my timing.

Today that was a verse I really needed - so just thought I would share my good start to the day with you all.


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The Second Coming Of Jesus Christ [18 Mar 2008|02:04pm]

I have noticed various people comment on aspects of the second coming of Jesus Christ and thought I would share this link with you of a recently published book

 What Is The World Coming To? 

I hope that you have a very special time of Blessing over the forth-coming Easter period.
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Immanuel - God With Us [11 Feb 2008|10:07am]

 I am reading from a Chronological Bible at present - which is a great way to do it, when you have read the book numerous times.  It makes the stories come alive again.

At present I am "in the middle of The Old Testament" and am reading of Kings of Israel and Judah, the downfall of both countries and the rise of their enemies.  The readings are form both Kings and Chronicles - but also from the prophets.

In the midst of the carnage of todays words, was that famous verse from Isaiah -

"Immanuel - God with us"

And it reminded me that God is always there - but, like the Kings of old, we have to make the choice whether we turn to God or not.

I know God is the single most important thing in my life - without Him, I would be less than nothing. 

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It's so hard... [28 Jul 2007|07:17am]

[ mood | cheerful ]

To be the kind of woman that God intends for me to be, as far as being holy and righteous... when you are single, and where you work at, there are a few single guys that are... well... attractive... to say the least. Ha! *G*

But my comfort is the fact that The Holy Spirit is alive and well within me, and it is He that tells me "That guy you're staring at is not the one I have planned for you." Once I hear those words, I just move on, not because I could, but because it is The Holy Spirit that gives me the ability to do that. Otherwise, I would be carelessly all over those guys. :-)

With that in mind, I just want to give glory where glory is due because it is God, by the power of His Spirit, that gives me the ability to be the godly woman that I am meant to be,... and gives me self-control. :-)

~*Diana.... who has the so-called 'eye candy' nearby her at work... LOL!

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New take on Psalm 23! [18 Jul 2007|11:07am]

[ mood | happy ]

Got this from the Air1 MySpace page...

Cut to make f'list happy. :-)Collapse )


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Singleness a sin? [04 Jul 2007|10:39pm]

[ mood | annoyed ]

You know, it's hard enough being single in a world that tells you through movies, music, etc that you need a man to be happy, but this is crazy...

Is Singleness a Sin?

Thankfully the woman who wrote the article understands how ridiculous it is to generalize all Christian singles and doesn't agree with Dr. Mohlar's assertions.

However, I am stunned at this comment of his:

"If you're 17, 18, 19, 20, in your early 20s—what are you waiting for?"

My question is this...if Jesus was without sin, then how can being single be a sin?

I'll admit that some people remain single for selfish reasons, but I'd rather have that than have a bunch of selfish people getting married because people are telling them that's what God wants for them. The divorce rate is high enough already.

I enjoyed reading this response to Dr. Mohlar's ideas:


I remember having a roommate in college who was a Christian and told me that I better hurry up and get married because pretty soon my eggs were going to dry up. "You're not getting any younger" she said...I was 27....and after one semester I decided to have my own room with no roommate (surprise surprise, lol)

I'm 31 and still single and will be content with my singleness until the Lord blesses me with someone. :)

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HI [04 Jul 2007|12:31pm]

[ mood | jubilant ]


I don't know how long this community has been around or overall how active it is, but I just wanted to say hello to you all and introduce myself.

I am in my mid(ish)-40's and live on the West Coast of England.  I am single - and always have been as I have never met a Christian who I have "liked" enough!  I am happy with my life as I feel I am where God wants me to be, although I must admit that from time to time I get lonely - however i suppose we all get times like that.

For any who read my scribblings - there is usually quite a bit about 2 main topics - DJ the horse I have on loan (who is also my namesake) and the actor James Marsters.  Yes I am a huge fan of his - have met him briefly (now I will admit IF he were a Christian ... and ... !!!) and am going to see him in concert later this month.  I have never, ever followed an actor before, but he is amazing!

Anyway - I hope that gives you some idea about me - and also where the name debris4spike comes from.

God bless.

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:-) [02 Jul 2007|07:14am]


I don't normally post anything in here. Mostly, I just read the posts and such. But right now, I'm being lead, as I am taking my 15-minute break at work, to kind of share something:

Isn't God so awesome, than even though everything in this world is but chaos, disorder, violence, poverty, and darkness, that our God gives us the peace that surpasses all understanding, joy that is unspeakable, grace that is sufficient, and a love that doesn't know any bounds?

I don't know about you, but as for me, I praise and worship God, not because of what He has done or what he can/will do for me, but mostly because of who He is: He is my Banner, my Glory and the Lifter of my head, my Master, my Savior, my Brother, my Best Friend, my Prince of Peace, my Lion of the tribe of Judah, my Life, and my Everything. Without Him, I wouldn't be here and I wouldn't be half of the woman that I am today.

:-) Carry on... *goes back to lurking*
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Feeling a tug... [09 May 2007|09:39pm]

[ mood | hopeful ]

I have been reading a book called Authentic Beauty...the shaping of a set-apart young women. It by Leslie Ludy. There is a line at the beginning of chapter 6 that I have been called to share. "...only when we fall in love with our true Prince and build our life completely around Him can we experience human love and romance in its purest and most beautiful form."

Also these two bible verses. The first is Proverbs 31:10-31.

The second is Jeremiah 29:11.

I hope you are all doing well. Peace and grace, Jessica

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New cd/bible study [28 Apr 2007|08:56pm]

[ mood | contemplative ]

hey gals!! i just got back from a semi annual youth gathering. there was a special guest musician from a group called dakota road. anyway, they have a cd called "from the ashes" with accompaning bible study. unfortunately i don't know how to post songs, but i thought i would post the lyrics along with the study. i hope no one minds.

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Being single in a "married" world... [17 Apr 2007|11:18am]

I found this on one of the websites i frequent. It discusses Paul's first letter to the Corinthians regarding singlesness. I thought you might enjoy it. It's a rather long message to I'm attaching a link to the website. enjoy and God bless, Jessica

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A call to pray... [30 Mar 2007|09:06pm]

[ mood | determined ]

Hello out there in LJ land! Just want to share with you a little something that was revealed very strongly by The Holy Spirit last Thursday night during our service that I think is not just for our church, but for every Christian citizen of the United States of America.

It all started when all of us workers and leaders was praying before we started the service, like we always do (NO! I am not by any means, a leader! I'm just a member of the music ministry). One of our associate pastors was praying, and while she was praying, she said "We are not just representing our families and our work places, but most of all Lord, we are representing this nation..." That was a confirmation to another associate pastor who was watching The 700 Club, where a congressman from Virginia called all citizens in prayer because there is something is really going on in D.C. with a lot of division and strife. Needless to say that our senior pastor did not have a chance to preach what he planned, but we were just worshiping and praising somewhat non-stop. For the last half hour of the service, he started assigning people to pray (of course, by the leading of The Spirit), and he chose me to go first.

I'll be upfront when I say when something like this happens, which has been happening for so many weeks in our church now, I am clueless as to what to do or say, so of course, I go by what The Holy Spirit is leading me to do. As I was praying, I found myself praying for America. And so was the senior pastor. The only difference between when I was praying and when he was praying is that he was travailing... I'm talking crying. Very rarely have I seen him do that. And I do mean very rarely.

There is something down deep in my spirit that, upon the revealation that was made by that congressman from Virginia, is very much troubling me. I am talking about a spiritual uneasiness. The last time I felt something like that, it was for something very serious. And it must be serious if a congressman is asking for the people to pray, especially when as we all know, the mere mention of God is now disallowed and forbidden in the government.

If you love this country, and you really believe that this country is meant to be more than what it is right now by the grace of God, then let us get on our knees together, let us pray and travail for this country. As citizens of this country, let us proclaim in one voice and in one accord that God is The Lord of this country, and that we want God to take His rightful place as Leader and Ruler of the United States...

x-posted everywhere I can

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I found this Ladies...I LOLed [28 Mar 2007|12:52am]

[ mood | flirty ]


GODTUBE is better the U TUBE!

Married Ladies Buy your Husband a Wedding ring...This girl is funny...

Westside Story Sing off...

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Website for Christian singles [17 Mar 2007|09:23pm]

[ mood | calm ]


There is also a weekly devotional there that you can sign up for.

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mom's surgery [16 Mar 2007|09:00am]

hey gals!

i want to thank you all for the prayers for my mom. her surgery went great. i was teasing her last night cause she has a patch on her eye. i told her she was allowed to talk like a pirate for the day. :) she goes in today to have the patch removed and learn about the multiple eye drops she will need to use. thank you again for the prayers. i hope you all have a blessed weekend. peace, jessica
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Verse for community [13 Mar 2007|08:08pm]

[ mood | good ]

i came across this verse while working on my journal. I thought it might work well for our community.

"So encourage each other and build eather other up..." 1 Thessalonians 5:11 NLT

i also would like to ask for prayers for my mom. she will be having eye surgery done thursday morning. basically she will be having a wrinkle taken out of her eye. it's causing the retina to deteriorate and if it's not fixed she would eventually lose vision in that eye. it's one of the most delicate surgeries that can be done on the eye. and she's freaking out about it.

i hope you all are having a blessed week. jessica

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It's Not Because I'm Ugly... [13 Mar 2007|03:15pm]

"Ultimately, we are single because that is God's will for us right now.
That's it.
It's not because we are too old...
Too fat
Too skinny
Too tall
Too short
Too quiet
Too loud
Too smart (haha ya right)
Too simple (haha, again I say, ya right)
Too demanding
Or too anything else
It's not wholly because of past failures or sin tendencies
It's not because we are of one race when many of the men around us are of another
It's not because the men we know lean toward passive temperments
It's not because there are more women than men in our singles group
It's not because our church dosen't even have a singles group...

Though perhaps these things seem like valid reasons, They don't trump God's will.

We are single today because God appointed us this gift today."

[From "Did I Kiss Marriage Goodbye," by Carolyn McCulley]
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My First Love. [13 Mar 2007|01:51pm]

I am getting married! ♥

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...To God, that is =P Look at this ring! Isn't it a beauty?

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It says in Hebrew: "I am my Beloved's, and my Beloved is mine"
[Song of Solomon 6:3]

I was looking through my jewelery box, untangling jewelery and whatnot... and I got really sad. I don't have a single piece of jewelery given to me by a guy... no diamonds, no platinum, nothing of real value - heck, even plastic would be valuable to me if it had meaning behind it. But yeah, all my really expensive jewelery I bought for myself (Tiffanys = bad habit!).

So, I did it again. I bought myself a really expensive ring and put it on my wedding ring finger because I'm sick of looking at a ring-less, diamond-less finger... now I can look at my ring finger and know that I am my beloved's, and He is my First Love.
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